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— J Wingfield (@JWingfieldUSA) July 27, 201510 Ways to Show You Care
We all know there are a number of obvious things you can do to show you care - but
what if I told you that there are super simple ways to communicate your love?
Seriously...there is really no need to overthink your love language. Most women just
want to know that you are actually thinking about them.
So how do you actually do this?
- Emptying the dishwasher, putting the dirty dishes in the dishwasher and running it.
I know. This sounds crazy but few things are more tedious than tending to the
dishes. If you are married and have children, and your wife or girlfriend does that
bedtime routine, the thought of that dirty flatware is likely gnawing at her while she’s
getting the little ones washed. Do both yourselves a favor and take 12 minutes to
unload the dishwasher and another 8 to put the dirty ones in and run it. I promise
she will say thank you.
- Putting the laundry away.
Doing the laundry is one thing, putting it away is another. If you see the basket of
clean clothes sitting there, put the clothes in their respective drawers and eliminate
that aspect of the household clutter.
- Planning a date - but literally planning everything that goes into it.
Yes, dress up in your nicest button down and look the part, but the focus shouldn’t
be on the caliber of attire of the dining. Instead focus your attention on taking care of
every detail that goes into a night out. From arranging for childcare to telling her
exactly what time to be ready, doing all the work in planning will certainly show you
care.
- Making her a card, and showing some personality in it. Put a random date on your calendar. Go ahead. Do it now. I’ll wait. Okay, great, now when the time comes, make your own version of these heartfelt and humorous cards. I guarantee it will be a great use of your love and language.
- Getting her a gift certificate for a massage or mani-pedi.
But don’t stop there, go above and beyond, by also getting a sense of her schedule, and then making the appointment for her. When she comes home, have her favorite dinner made. Less thinking and planning = more enjoyment of pretty much any activity.
- Sending her a thank you note for being awesome, and sending it in the mail.
It will very likely surprise her while breaking up the monotony of bills and junk mail
being, for the most part, the only thing that she receives snail mail.
- Letting her watch her favorite show or letting her pick the radio station in the car. And doing so without debate, discussion or battle.
- Cleaning the house. No explanation needed. I feel like anyone who has seen their house after a long week knows why this would be an incredible way to show you care.
- Saying I love you, and saying it sometime other than when you are hanging up the phone.
- Telling her she is doing a good job - at motherhood, at work and at life. Most of the time, that is really the kindest thing you can do for someone you care about.
What to Wear: On a Job Interview in NYC
New York City is the hub for many an industry, making a career in that city a crown jewel of achievement…and this means a job interview in this city can have an added level of intensity. Add to that the fact that New York City is typically on the cutting edge of trends and fashion, and you can find yourself frozen with fear when you approach your closet to get dressed for an interview.
I’ve been there. Don’t get too overwhelmed.
The most important part of a job interview is doing your homework on the organization and the people you are interviewing with before you have the actual interview. Once you are asked to come in for an interview, the company clearly knows your ability and experience based on your resume and phone conversations. Now they want to assess, among other things, how well you will fit in with the current office culture.
And the reality is, we communicate a lot about ourselves through the way we dress. Now I wouldn’t recommend going out of your way to fit in or pretend to be someone you’re not, because that will only cause problems in the long run. But do research the people and the office you are interviewing with and plan your wardrobe accordingly.
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- If you know someone who works at the office, simply ask, “Hey, how does everyone dress there?” If you don’t have known common connections, do the standard professional stalking using social media. Yes. It helps to have a common connection put in a good word for you. But it also helps to have a common connection give you a sense of what the office environment is like.
- Dress a step above what the normal day-to-day attire is. Here’s the thing, there is an assumption that you are showcasing your best self in this interview and that once you get hired you will let your guard down a bit. So kick it up a notch.
- But don’t overdress to much so that you stand out. You don’t want to wear a suit and tie, if everyone in the office, including the boss, wears jeans, a t-shirt and cool sneakers.
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Keep a few interview staples in your closet that you can dress down or dress up, as needed and on short notice. It helps to have on hand:
- A perfectly pressed and nicely fitted button down shirt
- A tie
- A great pair of dark-wash jeans
- A great pair of dress pants
- A solid pair of dress shoes or boots
- A flattering knee length pencil skirt (women)
- Confidence is the best accessory. Before you head in, skim over your resume to remind yourself why you are so qualified for this position. If you don’t know your own value - how can your new bosses?
What to Wear: Meeting the Parents
The impact technology has had on the dating landscape is hard to ignore. Everything from meeting the love of your life using an app to texting instead of calling, has altered the way we find love, and maintain it once it’s been found. We can debate the pros and cons of this at another time. But there is one thing that has not changed much since the advent of the Internet and that is the fact that meeting the parents does more to elevate your relationship status than changing it on Facebook ever will.
And once the relationship reaches a certain point, leaps of this nature are pretty much unavoidable.
So...here you are...about the meet Mom and Dad for the first time. You’ve run through the questions not to ask, figured out how to tactfully explain the non-descript tattoo on you arm and come up with the perfect way to answer, “So, what it is it again that you do for a living?”
And now...well now you need to figure out what you are going to wear. I’m going to say ixnay on any t-shirts that have profanity, holes or stains. The same goes for your pants. Pick something that says, “I’m a good man for your daughter” not “I’m a college co-ed who had way too much fun at Thirsty Thursday.”
I mean, we are all grown-ups now so we should at least act the part. Right? But at the same time you need to still do you. So I say just keep it simple.
- Start with a clean button down. Choose a color or pattern that fits your personality but does what it should do - which is help you put your best foot forward. And if you are rocking a shirt that is designed in New York City, woven in South Carolina and sewn in Texas, you also have a great conversation starter that doesn’t have anything to do with that crazy night in Vegas.
- I say skip the tie altogether, and same goes for a jacket. If you want to throw something over your shirt, go for a thin v-neck sweater.
- Next, grab your nicest pair of denim or, if the weather permits, shorts. You’ll be sweating enough shaking Dad’s hand for the first time, so if it’s warm, dress appropriately.
- You probably want to avoid any tattered footwear as well and keep it classy with a nice pair of boots, a slip on shoe of the leather variety or a cool pair of kicks if that is more your style.
- When in doubt, ask the object of your affection what she thinks. She’s the one best suited to help you look and feel your best when meeting her parents.
What to Wear: For a TV Interview
So you have been asked to be a guest on a television segment or maybe even an Internet video. And now you find yourself asking the age old question of, “What do I wear?”
Don’t panic. A few simple guidelines can help put your best self forward.
Let’s start off with what NOT to wear, because there are a few things that can be so distracting on camera that they make what you are saying nearly unintelligible. And that is never a good thing.
Do NOT Wear:
- Pinstripes. I know, in person pinstripes can look polished and professional, but on camera they make a mess by causing what is called a moiré effect. The same goes for hound’s-tooth, herringbone or corduroy.
- Busy patterns. Save your Hawaiian shirt for your island vacations, and for that matter, anything else that has a busy or overly complicated pattern. They’re too distracting for an on camera appearance.
- Sleeveless or short sleeve shirts or dresses: I know that there are a number of well-known television personalities who wear sleeveless attire on camera and totally rock it. Those people also dedicate a large amount of their free time to incredible workout regimens. I’d think long and hard about wearing anything sleeveless on camera. Male or female.
- Clothing that is very snug or very loose: The camera exaggerates the nuances of what you are wearing, so you want to avoid anything that adds inches or pinches in the wrong spots.
- Distracting, large or dangling jewelry. The last thing you want is the viewer paying attention to which way your earrings are swinging or the sound of your bracelets clanging together.
- Blue or green if you are going to be in front of a fake background. Those backgrounds are called chroma-keys and they allow for anything of a certain color to be filled in with a specified picture. If you are the same color as the background, you could suddenly become part of the San Diego skyline.
Do Wear:
- A well fitting collared shirt. Make sure it is pressed and wrinkle free, and none of the buttons are pulling.
- A well fitting jacket. Jackets are a great way to dress up your look, but be sure not to overdress for the environment or audience.
- Smoothing undergarments. For men an undershirt worn underneath a button down can smooth out your look and for women a snug-fitting camisole can help hide the lines or bumps from a bra. If you are being shot full-length, make sure your pants or skirt fall nicely without getting hung up on any curves and that no one knows if you wear boxers or briefs.
- A solid color that is not electric by definition. Colors that pop are good, but colors that blow away your own skin tone are not so good. Choose a color that you know compliments your skin color but isn’t so bright that it overpowers you.
- A Tie That Adheres to the Same Rules as The Rest of Your Clothing. Ties are a great way to add personality and color but just like all of the above, make sure they are not distracting.
When in doubt, ask the producer of the segment for specific guidelines on what to wear and bring two or 3 easily changed options along so that you ask for a second opinion in person...and this way, you’ll also have a backup just in case you spill coffee on yourself.
What to Wear: On a First Date in NYC
I mean everything in New York City has an additional level of complexity, and the dating scene is no exception. And one of the most stressful aspects of the first date (after you actually find someone to say yes to going out on it) is what to wear.
We’ve got you covered.
- You MUST do you. This is more important than any other point and should surpass all other points below. No one wants to go on a date with someone who is being anything other than themselves. Sure, put your best foot forward. But don’t put on an act. And with that in mind...
- You can never go wrong with a classic button down, such as our Classic TENCEL® Oxford. Personally, I’d skip the tie, I don’t see many men wearing ties outside of the office in New York City these days. Actually, I don’t see all that many men wearing ties in the office these days either. But a classic button down shirt always feels fresh and polished, without being forced. And if that is not your thing, then a quality t-shirt with a jacket can look pretty cool if you can pull off that look. Just make sure that wherever you plan on going doesn’t require a collared shirt.
- A solid pair of jeans. Jeans are the slacks of today, especially when it comes to social engagements. Go for a well-fitting dark pair of jeans that doesn’t have stains or holes and you will be good to go.
- A belt. Make sure to have a quality belt that is neither cloth nor braided. Just go with a nice brown or black leather belt, and your look will come off as pulled-together.
- Shoes. For that first date, make sure you are wearing shoes that are comfortable and appropriate for wherever you are taking the object of your affection.
Now go! Enjoy!
